“Even though we’ve changed and we’re all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we’ll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we’re not all still friends.”
It’s Christmas time again (and Yule etc) but I like to think of this time of year mostly as ‘the season of goodwill to all men’, let’s bank it while we can and save some for the rest of the year when it’s in short supply.
“Love is saying ‘I feel differently’ instead of ‘You’re wrong.’”
My thoughts go out to those spending their time alone, as well as those duty bound to be with people they’d rather not. There’s alcohol everywhere, and that brings to mind those who have made the brave decision to be sober, this must surely be the most difficult time of year for them (I salute your resolve and wish you well).
“Let us treat men and women well; treat them as if they were real. Perhaps they are”
There really is more to life I think than getting lashed; I’m an ‘all things in moderation’ kind of gal myself but I hasten to add that I’m not here to pass judgment on anyone else, we all have different needs and experiences that help shape us and how we enjoy our lives.
“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions, all life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better”
There’s a lot of pressure on us these days from the media, they tell us we need to wear the right designer labels, drive the right car, have the right partner, own the right house etc. etc. etc. They tell us that if we don’t have these things, then we’re simply useless tossers who are pitifully lacking and show us how the ‘other half’ lives, to rub it in.
“Things are in the saddle and ride mankind”
I don’t see myself as ‘less than’ or ‘more than’, particularly not for such hollow reasons. We all have a choice to either consume the contents of the nosebag put in front of us and swallow it whole, or take another route to find our green pasture. Thoughts have much more power than we give them credit for and to let someone else tell you what yours are should be a crime.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us”
When it comes to following a herd I’ve never felt that was my personal journey, even if it meant that the ride was rougher and required more contemplation to go it alone. That doesn’t mean that I don’t want to own a nice house, or drive a flash car, enjoy wearing nice clothes or have the right kind of partner. I also wouldn’t look down on (or up to) anyone else who does.
It’s a wonderful life if you can get it and of course one I wouldn’t mind but I don’t believe the acquisition or ownership of any of those things has anything to do with real worth. Considering I possess none of them I guess I’d be crying in my tea if I thought otherwise.
“Death comes to all, but great achievements build a monument which shall endure until the sun grows cold”
On Tuesday I was at my Aunt Olive’s funeral, which was playing, unsurprisingly, to a packed house. She was 86 years old when she died, and had led a life of complete selflessness; much like the rest of her family (including my Mum) who went before her. She was my favourite and last living Aunt and I will miss visiting her very much, and tending to her roses for her in the summertime. She was a brave and courageous woman and an inspiration to me, not least because she was a single parent who brought up seven children after her husband ran off with another woman.
She made the best of everything and was always down to earth and welcoming, there was real heart in her home. She leaves not only my seven cousins, but grandchildren, great grandchildren and extended family and friends. She will be sorely missed by all and it’s the end of an era for the family. If any of the material things I mentioned earlier really were some kind of gauge of what’s most important in life, then perhaps my Aunt Olive (like me) would’ve rated quite low on the scale, yet not one of the people whose lives she touched is likely to ever forget her kindness, her humour, her smile or her gentle and understanding nature.
“Love and you shall be loved”
She was frail when I saw her in hospital the night before she died and she couldn’t speak, but she held my hand when I placed it in hers. She was a woman of few words anyway and had always spoken most by her deeds. It was easy to sit there and tell her why she’s so loved and why she had no cause to fear whatever was to come. She’d said a month or so ago that she was ‘ready to go’ and that she ‘wanted to spend this Christmas with her own family’, her brothers and sisters. I wouldn’t be surprised if she got her wish, she certainly earned that and much more. She also said that she wanted people to wear bright colours to her funeral and not to be miserable – I wore my leopard print coat; I think she would’ve approved. I consider myself very blessed to have had her in my life for so long. When I think about it, she was also one of the very few people who didn’t bat an eyelid when she saw my now famous haircut; I told her on her deathbed just how much it meant to me that she hadn’t judged me when so many others had.
“That which we persist in doing becomes easier for us to do; not that the nature of the thing itself is changed, but that our power to do is increased”
I want to thank those of you who have dropped by the Dotty Rebel Store and ordered the new Soo Catwoman shirts, we’re pleased to hear that some of you have them already.
‘Swindled for Rock ‘n’ Roll’ was an inspired idea that came to me in the middle of the night a few weeks ago. I had scribbled in pencil on a scrap of paper by my bedside so I wouldn’t forget to tell Dion about it in the morning. When I told her she thought it was a great idea and set to work to make it happen.
“Art is a jealous mistress”
Every night after getting home from her day job she worked on the designs, also coming up with the ‘Viva La Cat’ idea. I think they’re great t shirts, I’d go so far as to say that I think they’re our best yet ;).
I’m looking forward to seeing photos of you wearing your shirts on Facebook. Please share your pictures with us and don’t be a stranger. We apologise that the shirts weren’t ready earlier (in time for Christmas) but there has been so much going on, as I’m sure you can imagine.
I hope it won’t take me a year to write another blog! Be well and happy in 2013. You can leave a comment below. I’d be grateful if you could start it with ‘Dear Soo’ since WordPress seems to get its fair share of spam comments and it will help me sort through them. All the very best to you!
(All quotes in italics by Ralph Waldo Emerson).
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